Touched forever...

There comes a point in our lives where we will come across a new friend, a kindred spirit of sorts. This interaction could lead to happiness, fulfillment, "BFF" status, a marriage, or even cause hardship, frustration and ultimately hate.

How we handle these interactions in our transgressions through life can determine how we live our life. Have you ever thought about someone and then have them contact you a day or so later? Have you ever experienced an unrelated memory that recalled what you hated about a specific person?

You should have answered yes to both of the above questions. If you answered no, please stop reading right now. Place two fingers on your wrist and check for a pulse.

We have all had these types of reactions in our lives in response to an interaction between two individuals. However, it is this reaction that drives how we live.

When we are scorned or betrayed by a loved one or friend, we tend to carry that with us forever. We are touched forever. Many of us will move on and forgive but not forget. The way a person sips a soda could trigger and emotional response to recall a negative emotional memory about being burnt. It is this negative energy that has been passed on and will remain with us until we make peace with that person.

Making peace is not about being nice or playing patty-cake. It is about verbally announcing your pain and not expecting anything in return. We must remove that which is within, out. The point of speaking is to release that negative energy. If you are expecting something to happen when you speak, then you are projecting an unwanted expectation on someone else. They will not give you the result you want because your making them live up to an expectation they know nothing about!

Proceed with an open mind that you are fulfilling a requirement for yourself -- not for them. You are lifting your own dead weight. Let that person know they hurt you and you just want them to know it. You are conquering your own mini Mt. Everest. Visualize yourself being happy that you no longer have to carry negative energy with you. Visualize that a way a person sips a soda, is just a person sipping a soda! Go frolic in a park if you have too. This is a moment of enjoyment for you - not them. I challenge you to find your own mini Mt. Everest and conquer it.

When you have this positive moment you will create room for more positive interactions. These may come in the form of a pay raise, a birth, a party, a new car, or finding an extra 10 bucks in the laundry. Hold on to these moments as they will carry and support you in times of need.

Positive energy is unmistakeably disgustingly noticeable. You feel it ten feet away from a person. You know, that person that just lights up a room, or that one person who tends to excel at everything and eats Brussels sprouts; yes, you need to drink some of their Kool-Aid. Keep these people around you. They will elevate you. They are are hard to contain but will touch your life forever.

When you are having a "moment", staring off into nothingness and a smile hits your face because you remembered the good times with so and so or a not so funny, funny incident jumps in your mind -- its because of this person. You are eternally connected to them whether they were in your life for a reason or a season. If you are out of touch, then reconnect. In these days in time, it could be as easy as a text or an email. If you want to go old school you could even call them. Chances are that when you are thinking about this person, they are thinking of you. Your connection was forged on positive energy and will cause a reaction in them to prompt an interaction.

It is the actions we take in response to reactions from our past interactions with people that lead to the quality of life we lead. I challenge any reader to reflect and reconnect on all of their past interactions. See where you can lift dead weight off of yourself and recharge your battery with more positive energy.

© 2010 Jerell Little